Who isn’t guilty of being an unpleasant person to be around every now and then? We all have our good days and bad days, so it happens. But if you’re noticing that your negativity has become a constant thing that’s starting to affect your relationships, it’s never too late to turn it all around.
“What you think is what you become.” The actions you take every day can also play a role in helping you become a happier and less toxic person. So here are some habits you should pick up, because you can turn it all around:
Tell the truth
Everyone fibs now and then – and that’s fine. Keeping the brutal truth about your feelings to yourself can even be good for your relationships sometimes. (Your mom doesn’t really need to know what you think of her fashion sense).
Mind your own business
Toxic people love drama. Gossiping, telling people what to do, and getting in the middle of things makes a toxic person come alive with excitement. Sure, you’re only trying to help – keep telling yourself that. But eventually, people aren’t going to confide in you anymore, and will start to drift away from you, for their own self-preservation.
Shut down negative thoughts
It’s a cliché because it’s true: hurt people hurt people. When you listen to the toxic voices in your head – the ones that tell you you’re the worst and no one loves you – you become the hurt person lashing out at everyone else, trying to make them feel as bad as you do. Of course, you don’t do this consciously. But when you feel terrible about yourself, it’s hard not to let that bleed out into the rest of your life. So, if you suffer from pessimistic thinking and negative self-talk, shut that shit down. You’re not so bad. You’re human, and we’re all our own most toxic people sometimes.
Take care of yourself
All of the previous points can be boiled down to this one, really. The key to having good relationships is kindness, and that includes your relationship with yourself. Being honest, keeping the focus on yourself, practicing moderation with social media and self-care indulgences, and not allowing negativity to take over your thinking are all ways of being kind to yourself.
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